Today I have to admit that I had to become the student rather than the teacher. For months now, I have been advising others to grasp the moment and get on with their lives. I have advised people to take their circumstances and make the best out of them.
What happens if everything you have done has led to the point you are at now and it has been successful? What happens if your success, hard work and diligence is not enough to get to the next level? That is the point where I am now. I have a situation in my life that I have worked hard to get to. It is a situation that I thought would never come and now that it has, I realize that even though I am totally prepared for it, the situation most likely will not end as I would like it to. It is a situation that I have no say in the final outcome. All I can do is hope that my record speaks for itself and sit back and wait for the result.
All of us at one time or another have something we hope for and work hard to attain and yet, no matter how hard we have worked, no matter how prepared we are, we just can't reach that goal. Does that mean we are a failure? Does that make us less than qualified? Does that make us less than the best? The answer is a fat resounding "NO".
No matter what happens in the situation I am in right now, no matter the outcome, I am still the best I can be and despite all my efforts, there are just some things that are beyond my control. I cannot make someone take notice of me and change their mind unless they want to do so.
What I do with that knowledge is what will make the difference in my life. I can choose to throw a pity party and say I "Deserved" it and I "Should have" received it and "It isn't fair" ad infinitum. While there may be some merit to those sentiments, (And there may NOT be merit) the fact of the matter is: LIFE IS NOT FAIR! Let me repeat that: LIFE IS NOT FAIR!!!
There are always going to be things that happen to us that we feel are unfair or things that happen beyond our control. Whether it is fair or not we have to deal with it. Choosing to dwell on the negatives; Choosing to whine about how I was overlooked, more qualified, had better results, etc. will not change the outcome and it will only serve to make me bitter; and If I am voicing these opinions out loud, I will alienate everyone around me.
Instead I have chosen to hold my head up high and take whatever comes my way. I may not get the thing I have worked for and if I don't, I will still get up tomorrow and act like I did today. I will refuse to let one incident define the person I am. I will not let one disappointment belittle everything I have strived for in my life. If I look back on my life, I have had many blessings. In fact, probably more than I deserve. No matter how I perceive my ability, others may not see it that way; and that is okay. I do not have to depend on the acknowledgement of others for my self worth. It is nice to be and feel appreciated but my self worth is not defined by someone else's words or actions. My success is not dependent on anyone other than myself.
Our society has trained our youth that if we fail, it is someone else's fault and as long as we lay the blame correctly that we can justify our own mediocrity. I lay no Blame for not achieving my goal. I know I did all I could to be where I am and that no one could do what I have accomplished any better. I may not have been able to change the outcome, but I can pick myself back up and move on with my head held high. TODAY, I CHOOSE NOT TO LAY BLAME!
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